{"id":45990,"date":"2026-01-24T14:32:42","date_gmt":"2026-01-24T14:32:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/radiojehona.mk\/?p=45990"},"modified":"2026-01-24T14:32:43","modified_gmt":"2026-01-24T14:32:43","slug":"cfare-po-i-largon-femijet-nga-prinderit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/radiojehona.mk\/?p=45990","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7far\u00eb po i largon f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nga prind\u00ebrit?!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Pa e kuptuar, shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr b\u00ebjn\u00eb gabime q\u00eb ftohin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien dhe e zbehin d\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr af\u00ebrsi<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her\u00ebt a von\u00eb, shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr p\u00ebrballen me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin moment. F\u00ebmija anulon vizit\u00ebn. S\u00ebrish. Me shpjegimin se \u201ci doli di\u00e7ka\u201d, se ka shum\u00eb angazhime, se kan\u00eb detyra sht\u00ebpie pik\u00ebrisht at\u00eb fundjav\u00eb. N\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7ast b\u00ebhet e qart\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb pranohet me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi: prindi \u00ebsht\u00eb shnd\u00ebrruar n\u00eb dik\u00eb tek i cili nuk shkohet me g\u00ebzim, por nga zakoni ose ndjenja e detyrimit. E ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, nuk shkohet fare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00eb e dhimbshmja \u00ebsht\u00eb se, thell\u00eb brenda vetes, shpesh dihet edhe arsyeja pse ka ndodhur kjo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, disa prind\u00ebr b\u00ebhen kritik\u00eb e jo mb\u00ebshtetje. Ata kan\u00eb v\u00ebrejtje p\u00ebr pothuajse \u00e7do vendim, japin k\u00ebshilla edhe kur nuk u k\u00ebrkohen, dhe \u00e7do vizit\u00eb e kthejn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb vler\u00ebsim se si punohet, si rriten f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, si jetohet. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb streh\u00eb sigurie, sht\u00ebpia ngadal\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb burim presioni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr mund ta identifikojn\u00eb sakt\u00ebsisht momentin kur nisi largimi. Shpesh ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb drek\u00eb apo nj\u00eb mbledhje familjare, gjat\u00eb s\u00eb cil\u00ebs prind\u00ebrit, t\u00eb bindur se dinin gjith\u00e7ka m\u00eb mir\u00eb, harruan t\u00eb d\u00ebgjonin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vet\u00ebdijesimi p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb t\u00eb pak\u00ebndshme mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb fillimi i ndryshimit, transmeton Telegrafi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Heqja dor\u00eb nga roli i gjykat\u00ebsit n\u00eb familje<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pothuajse t\u00eb gjith\u00eb njohin nj\u00eb prind q\u00eb ka mendim p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka. M\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh momentin kur edhe vet\u00eb e ke marr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rol. Bisedat at\u00ebher\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohen n\u00eb nj\u00eb varg korrigjimesh, krahasimesh dhe fjali q\u00eb nisin me \u201cn\u00eb koh\u00ebn ton\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndryshimi i par\u00eb dhe m\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsosh t\u00eb hesht\u00ebsh kur mendimi yt nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar. Kur f\u00ebmija flet p\u00ebr ndryshim pune, p\u00ebr m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e rritjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve apo p\u00ebr planet e jet\u00ebs, n\u00eb vend t\u00eb gjykimit zgjidhet kureshtja. B\u00ebhen pyetje dhe d\u00ebgjohet pa nd\u00ebrprerje. At\u00ebher\u00eb bisedat kthehen s\u00ebrish n\u00eb biseda, e jo n\u00eb ligj\u00ebrata t\u00eb maskuara si kujdes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Njohja e bot\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, jo imponimi i bot\u00ebs suaj<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr vite me radh\u00eb pritet q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe nip\u00ebrit t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb interes p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit. Rrall\u00ebher\u00eb shtrohet pyetja se kur ka qen\u00eb hera e fundit q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb treguar interes i sinqert\u00eb p\u00ebr bot\u00ebn e tyre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndryshimi ndodh kur pyetet dhe d\u00ebgjohet, kur lejohet q\u00eb dikush tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb fus\u00eb n\u00eb temat q\u00eb i ka p\u00ebr zem\u00ebr. Kur ndalet n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsimi i s\u00eb res\u00eb vet\u00ebm sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb e panjohur. Kur kureshtja z\u00eb vendin e distanc\u00ebs. At\u00ebher\u00eb af\u00ebrsia rikthehet natyrsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. T\u00eb thuhet m\u00eb shpesh \u201cpo\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zakonet, rregullat dhe rutina shpesh e kthejn\u00eb \u201cjo\u201d-n\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje automatike.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndryshimi vjen kur lind pyetja se kujt i sh\u00ebrben n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kjo ngurt\u00ebsi. Kur lejohet spontaniteti, g\u00ebzimet e vogla dhe devijimi nga plani. Kur sht\u00ebpia pushon s\u00eb qeni vend kontrolli dhe b\u00ebhet hap\u00ebsir\u00eb ku lejohet \u00e7lodhja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Pranimi i gabimeve<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga hapat m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. T\u00eb pranosh se ka pasur presion, kritik\u00eb dhe l\u00ebndime, edhe kur q\u00ebllimi nuk ka qen\u00eb i keq.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nj\u00eb ndjes\u00eb e sinqert\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton em\u00ebrtimin e gabimit dhe marrjen e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb. Jo fraza t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme, por fjali t\u00eb qarta q\u00eb pranojn\u00eb dhimbjen. Biseda t\u00eb tilla shpesh rr\u00ebzojn\u00eb mure q\u00eb vite shpjegimesh nuk i kan\u00eb l\u00ebvizur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Kur prindi pushon s\u00eb qeni n\u00eb qend\u00ebr t\u00eb \u00e7do vizite<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, gjith\u00e7ka funksionon sipas nj\u00eb orari, rregullash dhe zakonesh t\u00eb caktuara. Ndryshimi ndodh kur pyetet se \u00e7far\u00eb u b\u00ebn mir\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kur tradita pushon s\u00eb qeni detyrim dhe b\u00ebhet zgjedhje e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet ndryshojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. P\u00ebrballja me frik\u00ebrat personale<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Shum\u00eb modele kontrolli nuk burojn\u00eb nga kujdesi, por nga frika: frika se do t\u00eb humbet r\u00ebnd\u00ebsia, se nuk ka m\u00eb vend n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb rritur, se af\u00ebrsia po zbehet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Puna me veten dhe p\u00ebrballja me pasigurit\u00eb personale \u00e7liron si prindin, ashtu edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Kur ndalet nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb drejtuar jet\u00ebn e tjetrit, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb lehta.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. T\u00eb b\u00ebhesh vend ku vijn\u00eb sepse duan<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Njer\u00ebzit shkojn\u00eb me d\u00ebshir\u00eb aty ku ndihen t\u00eb pranuar, t\u00eb \u00e7lodhur dhe t\u00eb par\u00eb. Kur prindi nis t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb s\u00ebrish jet\u00ebn e vet, zhvillon interesa dhe hyn n\u00eb biseda pa nevoj\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb korrigjuar apo m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, ndryshon edhe dinamika e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kur ekziston k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi me jet\u00ebn personale, zhduket nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb rregulluar jet\u00ebn e tjetrit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pranimi i t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve ashtu si\u00e7 jan\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ndryshimi nuk vjen brenda nat\u00ebs. Modelet e vjetra rikthehen, fjal\u00ebt ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb mbeten n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb gjuh\u00ebs, por me koh\u00eb ndryshimet b\u00ebhen t\u00eb dukshme. Vijn\u00eb telefonata spontane, vizita pa paralajm\u00ebrim, nip\u00ebr q\u00eb duan t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojn\u00eb m\u00eb gjat\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb vijn\u00eb sepse duan, jo sepse duhet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ironia q\u00ebndron n\u00eb faktin se, duke hequr dor\u00eb nga nevoja p\u00ebr kontroll, fitohet af\u00ebrsia. Duke ndalur ligj\u00ebratat, b\u00ebhesh dikush q\u00eb d\u00ebgjohet. Duke pranuar t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, hapet hap\u00ebsira q\u00eb edhe vet\u00eb t\u00eb pranohesh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00ebse vihet re se vizitat po rrallohen, ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb koha p\u00ebr t\u00eb pyetur pse. P\u00ebrgjigjja mund t\u00eb dhemb\u00eb, por pik\u00ebrisht aty shpesh nis ndryshimi q\u00eb ndryshon gjith\u00e7ka. \/Telegrafi\/<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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